2009/12/16

Cost for an infidelity

I am not from divorced family, nor my father never allows himself into the way goes infidelity.
He is such a good father, and he never wanted to do anything to disappoint kids.

Lately, Tigar Woods scandal keeps catching my eyes.
Although I am not his fan,I was surprised that I was bit shocked and disappointed about what he had done.
Too bad that he was one of those guy....who can't imagine what would happen.

Surely, things would make a person feel so much better, easy and fun when there is no responsibility, strings, and obligation.
But why people can't picture what they gonna have to trade in?

Then, I happened to watch a movie called "corporate affairs" last night.
It was certainly not a good idea to watch it...
That fired me up more on topic of infidelity.

The Ted asked for forgiveness to Cassie at the end of the movie...
In the movie, they got back together...
But in real, how can she trust him as before???
I am sure she will try, I would try too...but it will never be the same as before.
He has to feel guilty all the time...
It's really sad and unhealthy to keep relationship like that...

They should have learned it when they were younger; how things can hurt other people very much...
Luckily, I went through lessons to experience the sharp stab of pain when I was a lot younger.

So I don't wanna get hurt.
And I don't wanna hurt others.

I hope people have rational mind to respect and love others.
If you can't respect others, it's not others, but it's your problem.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

難しい問題だよね・・・infidelityが絶対悪だとしても、ニュースによればウッズが愛人に送ったメールの内容の一部で”I finally found someone that I connect with,someone I have never found like this.Not even at home.”というのが掲載されてあってこれを読んだ時、計り知れないプレッシャーの中で生きてる彼が癒される場が家庭の中でもなかったんだ・・・と思うとすごい悲しいことだなと思ってしまったわ。まさに彼はsoul searchingをしてたのではないかな??空白を埋める為に。やり方は許せないものだけど。Chisamoon

naomi said...

チサちゃんといろんなトピックから広げてDiscussするの好き!
いつもコメントありがとう!

そうね、、、でもさ、12人とかありえないし。
そりゃ、プレッシャーはあるだろうけれどね。。。

家庭の状態が彼にとって快適ではなかったとしたら、それもそれで彼が選んだ人であって、話し合ってきた家庭であるのだから、お互いが快適になるような努力をしていたのかな。。。?

人の家庭のことなので、なんとも言えないけれどね。。。。

あぁ、結婚もせず、こうやって頭ばかりでかくなる。(笑)

Anonymous said...

ひゃ~12人!?いつの間にそんなことに!?育児ボケでそこまでの情報は知らなかったわ~。

しかし・・・究極はなおみちゃんが言うように「夫婦のことはその夫婦にしか分からない」ってことなのかもね。

掲載されてたメールの一部だってメディアによって情報操作されてたかもだもんね。

受け手の私たちは人の気持ちを想像して共感したり、ケーススタディとして考えたりすることくらいしかできないのかもね。

しかし・・・強烈なケーススタディだ(笑)。

Chisamoon